Tag: dating on an autism spectrum

Dating Someone who is Neurotypical while on an Autism Spectrum.

One of the most important things in life we are experiencing is finding Mr/Mrs. Right. Here is this question Do people on an autism spectrum date? And the answer is yes. People on an autism spectrum do date and eventually get married and have children, but I know it can be frustrating for some because we tend to get anxious, fear of rejection, etc.ย  I know many us have been in relationships in the past, but does not seem to work out how you for example, from a male/female having an affair outside the relationship to dealing with ones’ differences which results in breaking up/”calling it quits”.

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Recently I have watched the Netflix comedy series, Atypical about Sam Gardner, a high school senior, on an autism spectrum on a mission to find romance despite his parents’ (mainly his mother) chagrin and his sister’s humor. Throughout the season he has shown romantic interest of his therapist, Julia after she encourage Sam to start dating. Eventually, a girl named Paige (who is not an autism spectrum) shows interest in him which makes her his “practice girlfriend” and also become a couple during the autism friendly school dance in the season finale.ย  I would not think that this show deals with finding love on an autism spectrum disorder and Asperger’s syndrome.

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Here are the main criteria in dating:

  1. Typical questions people ask before dating and starting a relationship:”Will you go on date with me?” “Would you like to have coffee/tea sometime?”
  2. Typical sayings: “We should hang out sometimes.” “I will love to get more acquainted with you.”
  3. Getting to know you partner (similarities, interests/hobbies, hangout spots, etc.)
  4. “Are you ready for sex?”

Dating someone who is neurotypical have several difficulties in understanding acceptance of autism whether or not she/he are ready to commit a dating relationship without dealing with frustration and later learning about acceptance. Here is the link about where dating on an autism spectrum with a neurotypical person by Paddy-Joe Moranย https://www.aspergerstestsite.com/1575/autism-relationships-part-autistic-people-neuro-typical-people/.

What to do as a person with autism dating someone who is neurotypical?

  1. Communicate with them
  2. Get them to understand you are on an autism spectrum
  3. Eye contact
  4. Be a good listener
  5. Acceptance by your partner

The most important thing in life is finding a soul mate along with marriage and start a family. Dating is tough especially when on an autism spectrum because we have the tendency to develop anxiousness, fear of rejection, and so forth. However, while dating who is neurotypical often get frustrated and later understand the fact about learning about autism spectrum/Asperger’s. I really think dating is learning experience for everyone whether if your partner is on a spectrum or not. I know we often get anxious when meeting another person to be your life partner. My advice is to be yourself without scaring your mate away and it is okay to be nervous at first when your partner talks about sex.

 

 

Dating on an Autism Spectrum Part I!

Good afternoon, everyone

Today is Thursday May 25, 2017 and I will be discussing on this topic that everyone on an autism spectrum who are desperate to move forward within their lives. Today’s topic is dating on an autism spectrum. I know there are many of others who are dating on an autism spectrum whether it is online and/or in person. There are some ups and downs about dating and starting a relationships on an autism spectrum meaning we are hesitant to hold a conversation, we are uneasy with unfamiliar aspects, and so forth. Below there are questions and answers about dating and advice to begin your dating journey.

Question #1. Do you believe in online dating websites or in person dating?

Answer: I believe more on in person dating than I do online dating website. The reason I prefer meeting someone in person is because I would have a better description whether he is well-educated, he has a good job, he does not have a bad background (in other words, has a criminal history, history of beating women, and so on), etc.

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Nowadays, online dating sites can be dangerous and the reason for that is “catfishing” which results in people getting hurt or worse because they lie about his/her appearance or going by pseudo names. So I would not use online dating sites while trying to find the right significant other for me. It is my only opinion upon whether I prefer online dating or in-person dating.

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Question #2. Are you currently in a relationship? If not, how are you enjoying your single life?

Answer: I am not currently in a relationship right now. As a single person, I am waiting for the right guy who understands me being autistic and/or have something in common whether if he is on a spectrum or similar interests.

Question #3. What can I do to ask a person out on a date while on an autism spectrum whether or not he/she is on a spectrum?ย 

Answer: It takes time to get to know a person and do not try to rush into a relationship until he/she ready to be committed. Or if he/she is not the right person for you, ask to just be friends.

This concludes the first half on dating on an autism spectrum and the second half of part 1 where I will be talking about examples from movies and documentaries that deal with dating on an autism spectrum. I hope this answer your questions about dating and starting a relationship while on an autism spectrum. Be on the look out for part on the series of relationships and marriages on an autism spectrum.