Category: dating

Dating Someone who is Neurotypical while on an Autism Spectrum.

One of the most important things in life we are experiencing is finding Mr/Mrs. Right. Here is this question Do people on an autism spectrum date? And the answer is yes. People on an autism spectrum do date and eventually get married and have children, but I know it can be frustrating for some because we tend to get anxious, fear of rejection, etc.ย  I know many us have been in relationships in the past, but does not seem to work out how you for example, from a male/female having an affair outside the relationship to dealing with ones’ differences which results in breaking up/”calling it quits”.

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Recently I have watched the Netflix comedy series, Atypical about Sam Gardner, a high school senior, on an autism spectrum on a mission to find romance despite his parents’ (mainly his mother) chagrin and his sister’s humor. Throughout the season he has shown romantic interest of his therapist, Julia after she encourage Sam to start dating. Eventually, a girl named Paige (who is not an autism spectrum) shows interest in him which makes her his “practice girlfriend” and also become a couple during the autism friendly school dance in the season finale.ย  I would not think that this show deals with finding love on an autism spectrum disorder and Asperger’s syndrome.

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Here are the main criteria in dating:

  1. Typical questions people ask before dating and starting a relationship:”Will you go on date with me?” “Would you like to have coffee/tea sometime?”
  2. Typical sayings: “We should hang out sometimes.” “I will love to get more acquainted with you.”
  3. Getting to know you partner (similarities, interests/hobbies, hangout spots, etc.)
  4. “Are you ready for sex?”

Dating someone who is neurotypical have several difficulties in understanding acceptance of autism whether or not she/he are ready to commit a dating relationship without dealing with frustration and later learning about acceptance. Here is the link about where dating on an autism spectrum with a neurotypical person by Paddy-Joe Moranย https://www.aspergerstestsite.com/1575/autism-relationships-part-autistic-people-neuro-typical-people/.

What to do as a person with autism dating someone who is neurotypical?

  1. Communicate with them
  2. Get them to understand you are on an autism spectrum
  3. Eye contact
  4. Be a good listener
  5. Acceptance by your partner

The most important thing in life is finding a soul mate along with marriage and start a family. Dating is tough especially when on an autism spectrum because we have the tendency to develop anxiousness, fear of rejection, and so forth. However, while dating who is neurotypical often get frustrated and later understand the fact about learning about autism spectrum/Asperger’s. I really think dating is learning experience for everyone whether if your partner is on a spectrum or not. I know we often get anxious when meeting another person to be your life partner. My advice is to be yourself without scaring your mate away and it is okay to be nervous at first when your partner talks about sex.